OH GOD NO!!! 😭😭😭 We spoke with Elisa on Substack. She was Tortured. She wanted complete gender affirming care and was refused. VA Affairs said no to penis removal. Erections Traumatized her. Elisa was treated like a Rag Doll being fought over by sisters. One pulling arm and leg on the left side. One pulling arm and leg on the right side. The detransitioner’s hooks buried deep and FESTERED even as Elisa broke away from those captors. Elisa was fiercely herself. Rest Sweet Baby, it’s all over now. It Got Better because of you. Your Voice Your words of Pain and Love set us all free. 😭😭😭❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥 PICK UP YOUR SWORD AND FLY DEAR HEART 💔 💔 💔💜💜💜
Someone pointed me here, because I am a trans veteran, and I'm very upset. The first place I saw, before pointed here, was some article on military.com. They didn't mention that suicide note nor Elisa's name. Here is what I said to my new Substack friend:
"Read that link, their note, and the fact they never brought up that suicide note on military.com. Interesting. No, I won't write about Elisa. Why? I have my own bouts with thoughts like that and had to call the VA hotline last week. I was livid and still am about all this shit coming down and nobody saying anything to us about what, when, how, etc. Like, how dare this country spit on us for helping to defend it against their damn enemies, foreign & domestic? Most of us served honorably, and some of us have had fucked-up difficulties with the VA and being trans. I might've already written a little something about this, but not the whole enchilada. Even without being trans, many of us feel like we're expendable and only a paycheck to VA employees. Many of them could care less that we served and put our lives on the line ... whether we were deployed or not."
I've been trying to get a handle on what these MF's plan to do with us, as the VA is my only healthcare provider and I'm no criminal. I hate being treated like I did something wrong when I didn't. Merely existing and getting thrust out in public because of a bunch of religious zealots is just too much. Being hated by strangers when I'm loved by family, friends, young adult children, acquaintances, my doctors/nurses, and the likes is so very strange. They won't tell me anything, because they know I've been freaked out about this since asshole was elected & inaugurated. I was that way in 2016 when IT got elected the first time. I knew he was trouble.
I have a selfie of me standing with a sign saying, "I Stand With Trans Troops," with an MLK t-shirt behind the sign. If there's any way to hate hatred, that would be how I feel these days. Every single one of them judging me, while not knowing me, can kiss my veteran black ass. I don't feel like people really care, either, or they'd be pounding corporate media to talk to us and tell our fucking stories. You can't contact the media & self promote. It has to be others, and others are full of "sorry," but few actions.
Elisa, I'm so sorry we failed you and may my continuing to live show that love can win. May your friends/family be consoled by a God I don't understand right now. I can't say I'm a loving man, but I can say the reason behind almost everything I do is that word. I'm a tough hombre buckling under the pressure of a hateful nation that I swore to protect all people against its enemies. Elisa, may you Rest in Power.
I understand, Margo. Trust me I do. I also know I've done nothing wrong. It was having to listen to viscous anti-trans bullshit day & night during the campaign. Watching them lie about who we are and having no avenue to fight back with. It was pouring my all into a campaign that we couldn't win because of voter suppression and a bunch of greedy fucking white oligarchs who knew what they were going to do before that election. Having idiot trolls attack my articles here until I got Substack to give me a tool. I've been fighting my entire life, because I'm Black and then add this on top, and you have a pretty frustrated veteran over here. We haven't been bothering nobody but suddenly we get scape-goated for everything wrong with this stupid, ass-backward country.
Then day after day after day being eliminated with aggressive actions against us since that prick was signed in as perhaps the last President this country will ever see. Add on top of that being a star-trooper who has done things for trans veterans that not even other veterans do for each other; only during active-duty. I'm even letting those veterans have it about us. We're tired of these coward bullies saying all this shit behind devices & technology. Punching down as hard as they can. They had better not get anywhere near me, because I'll show them what that feels like for real.
That idiot, and others who have never served, don't know how on edge many of us are. I'm not even a trained killer, but do you know how many of us there are? They should be very careful who they're bullying. Next one might not do themselves away like that, but take people with them. I'm not suicidal, but I'm looking for a way out of this fucking place called AmeriKKKa. THAT'S what I'm talkin' 'bout. I can't be the effective leader that I am while having my life invisibly threatened like this. They know it too because that damn project 2025 playbook laid it all out for them. This is how is started in the 1930's, and I can't believe this ignorant country sent us straight back there without even blinking. TF???
Please know that not everyone is like tHEM. There are millions of us out here that see you! I am actually looking forward to the day we all stand up together and run those religious hypocrites into the ground and make their lives the hell they believe in. I’ve gone from being a loving, caring, hippie chick of a grandma to a Rebel with a Cause.
Quoting Elisa: “You cannot erase non-binary and transgender people because you give birth to more of us each day”. This hit hard and I hope THEY see this. It’s just like the Bishop said when she spoke to tRump in church and he blasted her for it. they and anyone like them are disgusting human beings. I apologize for them and that will never be enough. 💔
This is fucking devastating. I am so sorry Elisa, for the trauma and torment that this fascist regime called America has done to you. I am so sorry this was how you left this earth. I hope that wherever you are, you are at peace and free to be authentically yourself without fear. Rest easy. ❤️
This breaks my heart. I’m sad. I’m so sorry, Elisa, that the country failed you. I’m an old, straight, woman and I think you matter. I don’t always understand the LGBTQ community but it doesn’t mean that you don’t matter or that you aren’t real. You matter. You are real. You are who you are and you love who you love.
All of us here will to continue to fight for honor towards the LGBTQ+ community as well as for LGBTQ+ veterans. We will say your name and we will not let you die in vain. Rest in peace, and above all thank you for your service!!
Thank you for sharing this. I'd followed Elisa's advocacy work in the past (I used to work for a regional organization that was pushing for X gender markers in Oregon), and their subsequent struggles with their identity. Elisa was a complicated person who was clearly in a lot of pain due to how the world treated her. I'm filled with so much sorrow that this is how things have ended up for them. It's awful that this hasn't been covered more widely.
As a veteran myself, there is nothing less impressive than a mediocre person who never wore a uniform denigrating a veterans service. Trans veterans are veterans. They should be respected as such. I'm sorry this veteran wasn't.
Even LGBTQ Nation misgendered her. I just gave them a piece of my mind in the Contact Us section. We have enough threats against us just from our own government, we should not need to be on guard with our own communities.
"Maybe it was because nobody gives a fuck about trans people right now .."
Not the case..... there are people, old white straight who believe everyone is important.
The media that refused to print the letter, or even report her death are a disgrace.
OH GOD NO!!! 😭😭😭 We spoke with Elisa on Substack. She was Tortured. She wanted complete gender affirming care and was refused. VA Affairs said no to penis removal. Erections Traumatized her. Elisa was treated like a Rag Doll being fought over by sisters. One pulling arm and leg on the left side. One pulling arm and leg on the right side. The detransitioner’s hooks buried deep and FESTERED even as Elisa broke away from those captors. Elisa was fiercely herself. Rest Sweet Baby, it’s all over now. It Got Better because of you. Your Voice Your words of Pain and Love set us all free. 😭😭😭❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥 PICK UP YOUR SWORD AND FLY DEAR HEART 💔 💔 💔💜💜💜
Someone pointed me here, because I am a trans veteran, and I'm very upset. The first place I saw, before pointed here, was some article on military.com. They didn't mention that suicide note nor Elisa's name. Here is what I said to my new Substack friend:
"Read that link, their note, and the fact they never brought up that suicide note on military.com. Interesting. No, I won't write about Elisa. Why? I have my own bouts with thoughts like that and had to call the VA hotline last week. I was livid and still am about all this shit coming down and nobody saying anything to us about what, when, how, etc. Like, how dare this country spit on us for helping to defend it against their damn enemies, foreign & domestic? Most of us served honorably, and some of us have had fucked-up difficulties with the VA and being trans. I might've already written a little something about this, but not the whole enchilada. Even without being trans, many of us feel like we're expendable and only a paycheck to VA employees. Many of them could care less that we served and put our lives on the line ... whether we were deployed or not."
I've been trying to get a handle on what these MF's plan to do with us, as the VA is my only healthcare provider and I'm no criminal. I hate being treated like I did something wrong when I didn't. Merely existing and getting thrust out in public because of a bunch of religious zealots is just too much. Being hated by strangers when I'm loved by family, friends, young adult children, acquaintances, my doctors/nurses, and the likes is so very strange. They won't tell me anything, because they know I've been freaked out about this since asshole was elected & inaugurated. I was that way in 2016 when IT got elected the first time. I knew he was trouble.
I have a selfie of me standing with a sign saying, "I Stand With Trans Troops," with an MLK t-shirt behind the sign. If there's any way to hate hatred, that would be how I feel these days. Every single one of them judging me, while not knowing me, can kiss my veteran black ass. I don't feel like people really care, either, or they'd be pounding corporate media to talk to us and tell our fucking stories. You can't contact the media & self promote. It has to be others, and others are full of "sorry," but few actions.
Elisa, I'm so sorry we failed you and may my continuing to live show that love can win. May your friends/family be consoled by a God I don't understand right now. I can't say I'm a loving man, but I can say the reason behind almost everything I do is that word. I'm a tough hombre buckling under the pressure of a hateful nation that I swore to protect all people against its enemies. Elisa, may you Rest in Power.
Fuck this place!!
I understand, Margo. Trust me I do. I also know I've done nothing wrong. It was having to listen to viscous anti-trans bullshit day & night during the campaign. Watching them lie about who we are and having no avenue to fight back with. It was pouring my all into a campaign that we couldn't win because of voter suppression and a bunch of greedy fucking white oligarchs who knew what they were going to do before that election. Having idiot trolls attack my articles here until I got Substack to give me a tool. I've been fighting my entire life, because I'm Black and then add this on top, and you have a pretty frustrated veteran over here. We haven't been bothering nobody but suddenly we get scape-goated for everything wrong with this stupid, ass-backward country.
Then day after day after day being eliminated with aggressive actions against us since that prick was signed in as perhaps the last President this country will ever see. Add on top of that being a star-trooper who has done things for trans veterans that not even other veterans do for each other; only during active-duty. I'm even letting those veterans have it about us. We're tired of these coward bullies saying all this shit behind devices & technology. Punching down as hard as they can. They had better not get anywhere near me, because I'll show them what that feels like for real.
That idiot, and others who have never served, don't know how on edge many of us are. I'm not even a trained killer, but do you know how many of us there are? They should be very careful who they're bullying. Next one might not do themselves away like that, but take people with them. I'm not suicidal, but I'm looking for a way out of this fucking place called AmeriKKKa. THAT'S what I'm talkin' 'bout. I can't be the effective leader that I am while having my life invisibly threatened like this. They know it too because that damn project 2025 playbook laid it all out for them. This is how is started in the 1930's, and I can't believe this ignorant country sent us straight back there without even blinking. TF???
Please know that not everyone is like tHEM. There are millions of us out here that see you! I am actually looking forward to the day we all stand up together and run those religious hypocrites into the ground and make their lives the hell they believe in. I’ve gone from being a loving, caring, hippie chick of a grandma to a Rebel with a Cause.
Quoting Elisa: “You cannot erase non-binary and transgender people because you give birth to more of us each day”. This hit hard and I hope THEY see this. It’s just like the Bishop said when she spoke to tRump in church and he blasted her for it. they and anyone like them are disgusting human beings. I apologize for them and that will never be enough. 💔
This is fucking devastating. I am so sorry Elisa, for the trauma and torment that this fascist regime called America has done to you. I am so sorry this was how you left this earth. I hope that wherever you are, you are at peace and free to be authentically yourself without fear. Rest easy. ❤️
This breaks my heart. I’m sad. I’m so sorry, Elisa, that the country failed you. I’m an old, straight, woman and I think you matter. I don’t always understand the LGBTQ community but it doesn’t mean that you don’t matter or that you aren’t real. You matter. You are real. You are who you are and you love who you love.
Stay strong 💪
All of us here will to continue to fight for honor towards the LGBTQ+ community as well as for LGBTQ+ veterans. We will say your name and we will not let you die in vain. Rest in peace, and above all thank you for your service!!
I give a fuck.
Thank you for sharing this. I'd followed Elisa's advocacy work in the past (I used to work for a regional organization that was pushing for X gender markers in Oregon), and their subsequent struggles with their identity. Elisa was a complicated person who was clearly in a lot of pain due to how the world treated her. I'm filled with so much sorrow that this is how things have ended up for them. It's awful that this hasn't been covered more widely.
😭 I can't believe this is America.
As a veteran myself, there is nothing less impressive than a mediocre person who never wore a uniform denigrating a veterans service. Trans veterans are veterans. They should be respected as such. I'm sorry this veteran wasn't.
WOW this is extremely local to me and I’m JUST hearing about it. Horrific!
Rest in peace, Elisa Mae. We didn’t deserve you and your service.
Thank you for sharing
Even LGBTQ Nation misgendered her. I just gave them a piece of my mind in the Contact Us section. We have enough threats against us just from our own government, we should not need to be on guard with our own communities.
Their article:
https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/02/a-veteran-hanged-himself-while-draped-in-a-trans-pride-flag/
This is actually fucking disgusting
I give a fuck. Let's live out of spite, if nothing else.